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Our church has guidelines for weddings that the couple must agree to when they reserve the church for the wedding. In addition to that, we provide directors that will direct the wedding. Even if they have their own director, one of ours must be present as well. The couples are welcome to use the church fellowship hall for the reception, but many elect not to because of the no alcohol policy.

As far as this particular situation, I think the church handled it in the most generous and loving way possible, but the gay and lesbian lobby is trying to make political "hay" out of the situation.

As a guy who cleans up after weddings, let me assure everyone that there is a definite cost in offering a facility for weddings and funerals. Just because no bill is presented does not mean that the event was cost free.

Our church had few guidelines many years ago. Alcohol was the primary prohibition. As time marches on we have added a few more.

Our prohibition against dancing in the church, while well meaning, has created a situation where a staff member can’t have a last waltz with his daughter. They simply are moving the reception elsewhere.

I expect that when the young generation starts to run the church, many of our rules will be relaxed or eliminated.

I also suspect that the stricter rules will be reinstated when the newly relaxed rules allow conduct that is unbecoming in a church.

As far as this particular situation, I think the church handled it in the most generous and loving way possible...

Why? Because the sent the food over? Booting the funeral is not generous or loving.