No, you teach your kids right and wrong, period. More importantly you teach them right and wrong for more serious consequences.
If you go out drinking and driving, here are the consequences: someone can and will die. If you play with matches you will get burned, you can burn down the house, and someone can die. But more importantly, you will deal with me, mom.
I agree that you need to teach kids right from wrong. And on the unimportant things, or even some moderately important things, it’s okay to let kids make mistakes. I would agree that you allow for that. When it comes to matches and something that could cost lives or severe property loss, I think you have to take that choice out of their hands.
I do understand where you’re coming from and I support it for most things.
Take care.
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I will add that my son was born on March 11th. By Christmas that year I taught him that he couldn’t touch the Christmas tree. He wanted to pull himself up with it, and he was such a half-pint at the time, I had to teach not to touch it at all or he would have pulled it over on himself.