[nesnah]

This piece is spot-on. Described my world to perfection (with a few deviations - I don’t live in Mom’s basement). In addition, my ex had all the fault (joined the rodeo if you know what I mean). Now, the system extorts money from me and she is free to alienate my children at her whim.

It is a very broken system.

[Emmett McCarthy]

I don’t like paying the price for my bad choices, but I have worked hard to show my children what a man needs to do regardless of what the other person decides to do. I hope that the generation which has been so negatively affected by the truths contained in the article will make very different choices from those made by their parents.

[a real Sheila]

What does a father have to do in order to get the custody of the kids? Why is custody usually awarded to the mother?
I’m married and childless, so I’m really asking because I don’t understand the system either.

[wmfights]

Now, the system extorts money from me and she is free to alienate my children at her whim.

My step-brother went through this. His ex packed up and moved halfway across the country. He followed. He stayed in his children's lives. Now the boys are 20 & 18 and moved in with Dad. The ex is alone and bitter.

My step-brother went through hell, but the kids know it now. Hang in there!

[devistate one four]

14th amendment is equal treatment under the law. That’s 50%
for each. Sue the family court if they don’t allow you 50%

[grellis]

No offense intended, just curious:

In addition, my ex had all the fault (joined the rodeo if you know what I mean).

What made her decide to "join the rodeo"? Also all her fault, right?

Gotcha. I get it.

[redstateconfidential]

The current crop of Sex and the City, Gloria Steinem, no consequences, raised ladies are no deal either.Then they say,oh go find one in church,NO DIFFERENCE.Honestly I know so many young and middle aged women embittered by their choices in men, they can spoil milk just walking past a refrigerator.Marriages do not fail in a vacuum.It seems like they all date the same rotten bag of man-boys and ignore the hard working, capable and honest man.I am looking off the continent for my future wife.Previous postings on internet brides be damned.I might as well try that,none of the scenarios seem any worse as here anyway.