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Supremely Poignant: Sandra Day O'Connor Blesses Alzheimer Hubby's Affair
NY Post ^ | 11/12/07 | Hasani Gittens

Posted on 11/14/2007 10:52:46 AM PST by dead

The retired Supreme Court justice's spouse, John O'Connor, has had Alzheimer's disease for 17 years, and after moving into an assisted-living center in Phoenix, he began a romance with a fellow patient also suffering from the mind-debilitating ailment.

But the justice isn't jealous - the O'Connor family believes the love has given John, 77, a new lease on life.

"Mom was thrilled that dad was relaxed and happy and comfortable living here and wasn't complaining," their son Scott O'Connor, 50, told Phoenix's KPNX-TV.

Scott said that when his father recently arrived at the Huger Mercy Living Center, he was depressed.

"He knew this was sort of the beginning of the end," said Scott O'Connor. "It was basically suicide talk."

Then John O'Connor was moved to another part of the center, where he met a lady simply known as Kay.

They are often together and hold hands, Scott told KPNX.

"Forty-eight hours after moving into that new cottage, he was a teenager in love. He was happy."

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: alzheimers; assistedliving; dementia; elderly; oconnor; sandradayoconnor
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To: dead

Hmmm, I wonder how “Honey, Its not what you think, I have Alzheimer’s!” will work as an excuse?


21 posted on 11/14/2007 11:05:09 AM PST by Bob Buchholz
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To: dead

None of our business, in my opinion.


22 posted on 11/14/2007 11:05:31 AM PST by American Quilter (The urge to save humanity is nearly always a cover for the urge to rule. - H. L. Mencken)
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To: Jersey Republican Biker Chick

I’ve also heard of the heartbreak of Alzheimer’s patients who can’t remember that their spouse is deceased. When they are lucid enough to ask for their spouse and are reminded that this spouse has passed away, it is like hearing this devastating news for the first time. Over and over again.

Many recommend just saying that the spouse is busy or couldn’t make it that day.

Very sad. I admit this story seems a bit voyeuristic, but it is also educating people to the real challenges this horrible disease brings to the whole family.


23 posted on 11/14/2007 11:06:19 AM PST by YankeeGirl
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To: BOBTHENAILER

Are you serious?


24 posted on 11/14/2007 11:06:37 AM PST by AppyPappy (If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
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To: massgopguy

Good grief.
Abuse? Rape?
It sounds like he is holding on to the best part of humanity that he remembers - love.
He is an old man who just wants someone to hold his hand.


25 posted on 11/14/2007 11:07:15 AM PST by Stark_GOP
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To: Alter Kaker
By whom? When two senile Alzheimer's patients start a romance, who is the "rapist?"

Neither.

26 posted on 11/14/2007 11:07:49 AM PST by Prokopton
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To: Oberon

That’s not the name of the movie I saw. The Notebook had James Garner in it, correct? If so, that’s not the one. It was something like “It’s time to go” or something like that.


27 posted on 11/14/2007 11:08:30 AM PST by marvlus
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To: American_Centurion
I have not dealt with it personally, but I have a few on-line friends who have.

I cannot imagine what it must be like to have a loved one afflicted by this.

28 posted on 11/14/2007 11:08:48 AM PST by Jersey Republican Biker Chick (RIP Eric Medlen. You will be missed.../ Get well Soon John Force!!!)
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To: dead

Ugh.


29 posted on 11/14/2007 11:09:37 AM PST by Age of Reason
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To: massgopguy

>>Does Kay’s family know that their mother is being abused by this facility? She is not of sound mind. If there is sexual contact, it’s Rape.<<

If two people with Alzheimer’s have sex why would it automatically be rape.

And why would it be the man that is charged?


30 posted on 11/14/2007 11:09:49 AM PST by gondramB (Preach the Gospel at all times, and when necessary, use words.)
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To: Jersey Republican Biker Chick
Much better than coming downstairs to investigate an argument and be accused by your Father of being a bouncer in a speak-easy gin mill and watch him pack his saltines, Tobasco sauce and slippers and sit on the porch to wait for the train to come by to take him to his house.
31 posted on 11/14/2007 11:09:53 AM PST by N. Theknow (Kennedys: Can't drive, can't fly, can't ski, can't skipper a boat; but they know what's best for us)
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To: N. Theknow

I am truly sorry you had to witness those things.

<P.I pray that they find a cure for this terrible disease.


32 posted on 11/14/2007 11:11:18 AM PST by Jersey Republican Biker Chick (RIP Eric Medlen. You will be missed.../ Get well Soon John Force!!!)
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To: dead
This just in... Kent Brockman reporting--

Former President Clinton says... "I keep telling Hill I've got Alzheimer's, but she wants a note from my doctor."

Film... at 11!

33 posted on 11/14/2007 11:12:51 AM PST by Bender2 ("I've got a twisted sense of humor, and everything amuses me." RAH Beyond this Horizon)
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To: AppyPappy
Are you serious?

Series as a moose attack, ap.

Nah, jest havin' a little fun on a very serious topic. No disrespect meant to anybody with family members or friends so afflicted.

I know, I have a couple of relatives who had it, and the pain it creates is real. In our family, humor was the only relief.

34 posted on 11/14/2007 11:13:38 AM PST by BOBTHENAILER (One by one, in small groups or in whole armies, we don't care how we do it, but we're gonna getcha)
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To: marvlus
Yes, I was thinking of the James Garner film The Notebook, which is based on a Nick Sparks novel. In that story, Garner and his wife both live in the nursing home, though Garner's character is fit and doesn't need to be there. He's there for his wife, whom he loves dearly, though she no longer remembers who he is.

I haven't heard of the film you mention.

35 posted on 11/14/2007 11:13:48 AM PST by Oberon (What does it take to make government shrink?)
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To: marvlus; Oberon
It was something like “It’s time to go” or something like that.

Boy, was I way off. It was called "Away from her" I hope I'm destined for this situation, just yet! :-)

36 posted on 11/14/2007 11:14:40 AM PST by marvlus
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To: marvlus
Away From Her
37 posted on 11/14/2007 11:15:05 AM PST by kanawa (Don't go where you're looking, look where you're going.)
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To: marvlus

LOL...little too slow


38 posted on 11/14/2007 11:15:35 AM PST by kanawa (Don't go where you're looking, look where you're going.)
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To: marvlus; Oberon
I hope I'm not destined for this situation, just yet! :-)
39 posted on 11/14/2007 11:16:42 AM PST by marvlus
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To: kanawa

Ha Ha!


40 posted on 11/14/2007 11:18:50 AM PST by marvlus
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