I didn’t miss the point, but you and your dad sound like you have anger issues. I don’t think coaches are obligated to put up with boorish behavior. Kids flipping adults off fits that category. I suspect you don’t tolerate that behavior now, as an adult.
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This was forty years ago and my father is no longer living. Of course I don’t believe children should flip off adults, but I also don’t believe adults in positions of authority ought not to be abusing that authority, as this jv coach did frequently. Since you’re engaging in dimestore analysis, I think I’ll engage in some of my own, why do feel like you have to defend jerks like this coach? Sounds to me you might well have “jerk” issues of your own.