In the parenting classes for fostering, they said a lot of what you said....
That most kids in foster care don’t have even the most remote sense of order or consistancy-—
Rituals like morning routines, bedtimes, mealtimes, consistant behavior expectations, chores, allowances, discipline etc.
Their world was chaotic and scattershot. They might get a sandwich on Friday and nothing for supper on Saturday. Bedtime is whenever. They might get slapped for a behavior on Monday that was laughed off or ignored on Sunday.
Let me tell you, it was as rough for them as it was for me to daily be consistant in everything. Oy...that was so hard ;)
In the peds unit that I work in, the kids respond the most simple things. The most heartbreaking thing is how grateful they are to have 3 hot meals, sitting down at a table with adults (the CNAs, Nurses, me etc) its really a big deal to them!
I’ve seen even the pickiest eaters eat things like collards simply because someone cared enough to put it there.
Which is an effect of the sexualization of danged near everything at an early age....I could go on, but none of this has been happening in a vacuum, it has been enabled and promoted by the liberals.