Posted on 12/25/2007 6:27:43 AM PST by Kaslin
That’s what we do, because it is heartwrenching to hear your four year old ask, “Where’s my gift to open?”
Never again.
And the year she got the socks, the other kids got toys. That one is named after the woman as well.
Okay, so I’m going to go watch James Marsden sing “Nicest Kids in Town” now and thank God for my MIL.
That’s true!!!!
Merry Christmas ladies!
I was very fortunate in that my MIL had an innate knack for finding just the right present. Alas, she passed away within weeks after we married and our daughter was not blessed with meeting her grandmother. Thankfully both my husband and his sister inheritted Mom’s knack for just the right present (in hubby’s case, if he puts his mind to it)!
What should we do?
Why - say “Thank You”, of course.
Saying “Thank You” does not say you like the gift it means that you are thanking them for thinking enough of you to give you a gift.
I guess some are more polite than others.
Unless the gift is something like an envelope full of anthrax, most gift givers are trying to express their love toward the recipient.
Some folks write bad songs or books but they don't intend to create something people hate.
"Bad" is a subjective term and completely dependent upon the eye and taste of the beholder.
Some men enjoy "bad" women, for example.
Don’t even get me started. My husband’s family just gives bad gifts. One year we all got popcorn...no, not one of those tins with the flavored popcorn but a brown paper lunch bag. Yum, yum, stale, cold popcorn!
My MIL now only gives money to the grandkids and great-grandkids, and it is quite substantial but she forgets my oldest son. The funny thing is that he is the one who lives in the same town and helps her with all her honey-dos. It is odd.
In 37 yrs she’s given me 3 presents and borrowed them back within a week and I never got them back. We let the pretense drop many, many years ago.
Say "THANK YOU!" and let it go. Sheesh!
Say, “Thank You”.
“What if someone bought my 3½ year-old son a hunting knife?”
What’s wrong with that?
Oh my goodness! That SUCKS!
You know what the biggest poo in the punch is? We have to say thank you and act all grateful. Mine makes a big fuss and won’t throw her gifts in with the rest of them. She holds onto them like they are gold and has to hand each one individually. Nothing but a huge ego trip for her.
I’ll lend you my James Marden disk. He’s so pretty and when he sings, the angels cry. So says my older daughter. It will make you feel better.
“Now THIS is an unique gift; how DID you think of it?”
I disagree. Chances are if a person gave a gift that you either didn't like, or didn't want, they did not take enough time to find out who you were as a person, or didn't know you well enough to ask. There's no love involved, only obligation.
IMO, better to hand out a pre-paid credit card rather than give a person something he/she would want to re-gift within the hour.
“Now, obviously, these are ridiculous and even sometimes evil gifts.”
The man is obviously a Hoplophobe. Gift are in inanimate
objects and therefore cannot ,in and of themselves, be evil.
Unless of course they are SUV’s or guns. </sarc>
MERRY CHRISTMAS to ALL!
You gotta do what you gotta do. Being kind to difficult people is an important life lesson.
Last year my sister gave me some shower gel that she got from Mary Kay. I have very sensitive skin, so I am careful about what ingredients my skin products contain. The bottle is still sitting in my bathroom cabinet, unused. Of course, it was nice of my sister to give it to me, but she doesn’t understand the sensitive skin thing. I guess I could regift it. I regifted some lotion I got once, but I felt guilty about giving a “regift” to someone!
Right on!
Never look a gift horse in the mouth.
Not allowing your girls to take a backseat to their cousins is a very important lesson as well.
I feel that it’s very important to teach my girls not to be abused. This is what my spiritual advisor said as well. Limit the time you spend with the abuser, cover her tracks and speak about her well in front of the children.
When it’s intentional, it’s not a “difficult person”. It’s an abuser.
I made the horrendous mistakes of
1. marrying her baby
2. Giving birth to two girls he loves more than her
Jesus said turn the other cheek. He didn’t say set yourself up to be slapped.
Regifting is okay as long as you add to it.
We got wine glasses one year from my BIL.
We added wine, cheese and bread then regifted them. It worked out well.
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