I see your point, and agree to some extent. Of course, the funny thing about Dawkins is that he would consider that woman an abuser if she had said "God is love, and he wants every person to go to Heaven and avoid Hell."
I think the first part of the sentence is enough..... talking to a child about hell can at first terrorize them, and then honestly after a while....they can’t process much more fear.
So yeah, parents who threaten their child with a God that will make them burn in hell forever ESPECIALLY after saying “He loves you-— but he’ll hurt you too!” doesn’t make that God seem like a good being that you can trust....not only are their parents after them, but the big mean God upstairs will get them.
They just sorta accept their fate and say “WTF can you do to me any worse than what’s gonna happen.” And you have a reverse effect of what you (the parent) have hoped for.... a child that is numb.
Again, it’s all in the attitude.