I can’t leave this one alone, as it touched my life and left scars.
My mother believed this kind of thing. She tried to be perfect. So much so, she had two nervous breakdowns and 30 years of alcoholism. What she did to my sister and me was horrifying. My father was oblivious.
You see, what’s printed in that article only works when man and wife are both perfect people. Somethings are too painful to acknowledge.
Any one here perfect? I know I’m not, and I’ve never met a man who was either.
I’m sorry for the pain in your life that your mother caused you. Actually, this article is exactly NOT for perfect people at all. The guy is saying that men really DO care about the “inside” — the “real you” — and how you make them feel about themselves — more then they care about your dress size. I think underneath the humor, it’s about unconditional love that is possible between a man and a woman — as long as everyone understands that we are different, and don’t try to remake the other sex into something they were never meant to be.
I’ve been reunited this last year with my one and only love from 25+ years ago, and we are back together (it’s a long, miracle story). After writing for awhile, I told him I’ve changed a bit physically — put on weight since he knew me years before. He very patiently sighed over the phone, and said, “Baby, do you really think i care about that? Do I care that you’ve changed? I’ve changed too! We’re both older, and I am just grateful that we have another chance to love each other, and to be back in each other’s lives again!” He shows me this every day— now that he has actually seen me in person again. He looks at me and loves on me exactly the way he did when i was 19 years old — and took up less space than I do now. :-)
Take heart. They’re out there. We just have to keep it real ourselves.
None of us is perfect. One of my favorite Psalms.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%20139%20;&version=9;
Only I am!