But we’ve gotten to the root of it (and understand, I’m either around very sick folks or dance types).
I agree with the others...she sounds depressed. What is her family hx like? I mean, hx of neglect, abuse, depression, suicide and what illnesses?
In her case, I think its both real depression AND selfishness. You can be sick and still be a jerk. Or crippled and still be a nightmare of a person. A medical condition does not excuse everything.