...An unfaithful spouse is still unfaithful not matter what they want to believe is the cause.
No one is disputing that. The cheater made a conscious decision to cheat, so they will ALWAYS be blameworthy. I think we're in agreement on that.
But do you also agree that there at least some instances of infidelity that might have been prevented if one spouse had been more attentive to the needs of the other? To me, that was the main point that Laura was trying to make...it was not that any of the underlying causes absolved the cheating spouse's guilt.
Laura is a woman who hates herself (for being a woman who broke up a marriage). The easiest way to assuage her guilt is to make life hell for other females AND blame the women who's hubbies were untrue....which in turn absolves her of all guilt in her hubbies ruined marriage.
Maybe so. I'm not really concerned with her motives, though.
Honestly,
No...
I’ve seen spouses cheat when they could get sex when and however they wanted from their spouse. A case of a former ballet buddy-— the guy couldn’t keep it in his pants and his wife would have done it in the middle of the highway if he’d have asked (again, something was twisted in his head, not hers).
And I’ve seen spouses be faithful even to those who hadn’t touched them in years. (and yes, women have this problem too as well as men).
Again, infidelity is a symptom of something wrong in that person’s character, not a ‘I wasn’t getting laid so I went looking for some strange.’ They will cheat for a host of reasons, and now, thanks to dear old ‘dr’ L, they can blame it on getting laid only 5 times a week instead of 6 /sarc.
And Laura’s statement I discredit for many many many reasons....personal experience being one.....which turns out, is just as valid as her credentials.