No one here has said anything about man hating or blaming men....what we’re simply saying is that every person chooses their actions. Even vaguely veiling that there was a justifiable cause only means if you eleminate that cause, you just allow that person to find another one....
ie, many men who cheat usually ARE getting adequate sex at home (or could be), and often the wife is the one who notes that he was rejecting her first (to assuage his guilt or justify his actions).
There are gobs of girlfriends/mistresses who will tell you that honeyboy SWORE his wife wouldnt’ let him touch her for years...but damn! She’s pregnant again...
Whether it’s in response to a perceived stimuli or not, it’s still a choice. How many threads have we read where some gets pissed and shoots 20 people? Doesn’t matter what they felt, it’s what they did.
As far as cheating goes, golly, since when was it low? Historically, it’s always been an issue, even in lower class cultures...still, even when it was considered normal, its a character issue having to do with keeping a promise.
Divorce? Not pert to this thread or this discussion.