OK,
Let me clarify one more time....
If ‘dr.’ L had said “Problems with fidelity in marriage can result from spouses who are not providing adequate or loving sex.” Because I know of women who’ve been unfaithful too.
Or even broader “Spouses will have a hard time being faithful when their needs aren’t being met”
(both spouses and all kinds of needs).
Then I’d be all behind her...but the way it was phrased, as well as her hx of playing to the XY crowd (and yes, I’ve read all her books) makes her look more like she’s going for sensationalism over fact. And throwing another bomb into the ‘women are spoiled rotten and deserve all kinds of crap’ arguments that don’t hold water.
Really, do a random poll with folks who’ve had cheating spouses....most will tell you that their cheating spouses picked fights, found fault with everything, were irritable and hard to please and in general, found a reason to be unfaithful...
IOW, if it isn’t sex, it’ll be something else.
I can understand all of that. Frankly I don't care to listen to the woman. I never really picked up on the specifically misogynistic vibe (being a man, I guess that's not surprising), but I detected enough of her overall negativity and meanness that I don't doubt what you're saying.
So as for tact and delivery, I agree that she missed the mark.