Dr Laura nails it again.
Speaking from experience here. The key word in her article is “share”.
My ex accused me of sexual abuse. She could never quantify or qualify it. Unfortunately, when she pulled this card on my pastor he said just claiming it without examples did not make it so, but her withholding sex FOR 14 MONTHS was definitely sex abuse!
Although I WAS able to avoid cheating, few would have blamed me if I had. I’m 54 and have talked to a lot of men about their relationships with their wives. I’ve been to domestic violence classes and seen men reduced to mere shadows of themselves because they were clearly falsely accused of abuse when their worst crime was not dropping everything and jumping when their wife said “jump”.
And I’ve seen women who really were abused.
Bottom line is that when a couple has been married as long as Spitzer and his wife then, yes, she does “share” the blame in MOST cases. Not all of course...
I'm sorry, the decision to commit adultery is that person's alone. The idea that if you are not the perfect spouse that means that the other spouse is entitled or less wrong for having sex with prostitutes is ridiculous. How many married people did everything 100% right all of the time? How many perfect people are there? When you take your vows, it is for better or worse. As a Christian, I believe that vows made between spouses are also made to God- what did He do to drive a spouse to adultery?
I think Dr. Laura is correct. Yes, many times the guy just can’t keep it in his pants but there are times when a manipulative wife brings the problem on. My wife and I were perfectly fine for the first two years of our marriage. We had a daughter and then my wife announces that “she really doesn’t like sex, but if you cheat on me then I’ll divorce you”. My daughter means the world to me and I would never deprive her of having her dad at home. My in-laws were too powerful (A District court judge and a powerful business executive) so even though my wife was not the better parent I would have lost my daughter. I’m the one that stays up with my daughter all night when she is sick while my wife sleeps. I’m the one that does about 80% of the household duties in addition to having a full-time job that keeps me busy 50 hours a week. It’s now been 15 years since I married her and there is not one ounce of passion in our lives but I WILL NOT give up being a father to my daughter and son (which was born three years after our daughter). My kids are my life. My “wife” quit being a mate 13 years ago.