Really,
so you’re an expert on women’s hormones, illness, childbirth, menopause (yes, we do gain weight then) genetics etc....
I’ll tell you right now, you can gain weight from far less than someone else is eating to loose weight....metabolisms vary as well as body types.
I’ve dealt with lots of overweight folks and I’m the first one to say ‘If you have someone in your life making you miserable about your weight, get the heck away from them and THEN lose it! Do NOT lose it for them, because they’ll find the next flaw.’
If your hormones, metabolism, genetics and such make you fat on the amount of food you eat, then your body wants you to eat less. Its that simple. If your body requires less calories than others, then eat less calories. You can not gain weight if you do not eat more than your body needs. Eat less and take vitamins to supplement.
And yes, your response is typical. Don't lose weight to make your husband happy. screw him, and make the next man happy by losing weight later. That will show him!!! And thus the selfishness of women today.... and the sky high divorce rate.