[Mrs.O'Strategery]

Interesting! I lost 125 pounds about 5 years ago. My ex-husband started a two year affair the year I reached my goal weight of 125 pounds. I did not deny him sex. I was a stay at home mom at his insistence... and like many married men in his 30’s HE had “let himself go.” He gained weight and didn't exercise any longer. I never strayed. He did. I wasn't over weight any longer (nor would I have accepted that as an excuse for his affair!)

I have so many female friends whose husbands are at that age where the beer belly is starting to show and they have lost interest in exercise. Their hair is falling out... Does that give these women an excuse to cheat?

[najida]

Oh, and don’t forget that about the time the beer belly develops and the hair starts to recede, so does their sex drive....

Just about the time yours ramps into high geer....but then, we’re supposed to love them anyhow and not make demands.

[StolarStorm]

I never said any of this was an excuse to cheat. I simply said that is what causes some of it. That is not an excuse. Just because a fact is hurtful or rubs you wrong does not make it false or even evil. Fatness in formerly thin people is a big turn off for some people. Right or wrong doesn't play into it. Its just there.

Hopefully, the spouses are more diplomatic than I am being here and attempt to come to terms with the issue less bluntly. I'm just stating this as a fact to people I have no personal contact with. If we hide hurtful facts people can never move forward and fix things that are broken.