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Think of the message this image sends -- not to just adults, but to young children, both boys and girls. For young girls, it says this is an acceptable role for women -- to be lied to, cheated on, disrespected and humiliated in public/ You take it and must still be supportive. because that is what is expected of women...

I know that many women are supportive of those who stand by their man, for no other stated reason than to keep the family together. Imagine, though, the scars that the children will suffer from getting conflicting messages. Surely they are taught to be honest and to honor their family, but suddenly it is also to do as I say and not what I do.

Hopefully the girls are learning that one does not throw away a twenty-year marriage at the first sign of trouble. Hopefully they are learning that adults take time to think through and talk through their problems before taking irrevocable actions or running off to the Divorce Court. Maybe they will even see their parents seek advice and solace from professional counselors or < gasp! > religious advisors before doing something rash.

They may wind in Divorce Court eventually, but there is no need for Silda Spitzer to throw her husband and marriage away in the first 24 hours of a scandal, even if it would have made for interesting TV for Sally Quinn to watch on a slow Tuesday afternoon.

Habitual infidelity and lack of faithfulness is grounds for divorce. Whether a marriage can be saved depends on whether the betrayed spouse believes their partner is capable of changing their ways and remaining faithful. Its not the sex that usually ends a marriage - its the perception your partner has been telling a complete stranger things that should only be shared with you. That's why little good seldom comes out of confessing that one has had an affair.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus