“My wife says I was missing cues indicating interest from women left and right”
Same here...and it doesn’t matter if you pick up on them or not, you’re still in trouble.
Now that I’m married and I don’t care about other women’s “interest.” I only have eyes for her and I make sure she knows it!
Saved time and I never had to wonder if I missed any "signals".
Being in sales, I was inured to the word no, but don't use this approach if you are a liberal with questionable self esteem.