[Texan]

Usually an affair is discovered only when a person is "caught" and most are. Never underestimate the intuitive powers of a wife.

However, if the adultery has not been discovered yet and the adulterer wants to keep the family and marriage together, they must do two things:

End the affair immediately and permnently.

Confess your sin to God but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT confess to your spouse.

If you have sincerely repented, there is no reason to inflict that kind of pain on your partner who may eventually forgive you but who will NEVER EVER forget.

[Kozak]

Usually an affair is discovered only when a person is "caught" and most are. Never underestimate the intuitive powers of a wife.

About half the cheaters are the wives.....

[DainBramage]

A friend of mine caught his wife, who is a teacher, having an affair with a coach.
He called the coaches wife and gave her the evidence.
She went ballistic and went to the school and began throwing things all around his offfice and yelling at her.

The coach got divorce papers and pays child support, the wife reconciled and after 5 years they seem happy.

[Canedawg]

“Confess your sin to God but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT confess to your spouse.”

Agreed.

While admitting infidelity may make the cheater feel absolved from guilt, never telling and having to quietly live with that indiscretion may be an adequate punishment.

[Scotswife]

“Confess your sin to God but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT confess to your spouse.

If you have sincerely repented, there is no reason to inflict that kind of pain on your partner who may eventually forgive you but who will NEVER EVER forget.”

Not an option - especially for women, who are more susceptible to contracting serious STD-related health conditions.

Anyone who has been cheated on needs to be told so they can be checked for a variety of diseases.

You guys just don’t get it, because you aren’t the ones at risk for cervical cancer and sterility.