Of course, it depends on the situation. In my case, she didn’t take me to the cleaners. I have full custody, the house, and she gets no $$ from me. And all I did was use her mentality of, “ME FIRST!!!” against her.
The same mentality drilled into liberals since the sixties. Their curse was my weapon. And my Sons are better for it -they have a parent who cares enough for the both of them that they don’t miss her. THEY gave me the strength to win.
Another liberal curse used as a weapon: Disregard for children.
I owe my little Sons everything.
She messed up by not going to one of those YWCA-sponsored seminars on how to take the upper hand by charging you with domestic violence and ( if you had any daughters ) incest. Lot of times, the courts just take women's assertions as gospel.
And the lawyers get paid well, no matter how it comes out.