Posted on 05/01/2008 7:00:20 AM PDT by forkinsocket
However high-minded their courses may sound – "Mirror of Princes," say, or "The Political Philosophy of Aristotle" – college students today enter a low hook-up culture when they leave the classroom. In case you don't know, a hook-up is a brief sexual encounter between two partners who don't necessarily know each other before and who don't necessarily want to know each other after. And it's free. The sort of transient sex that once was available to men only for money can now be had, without paying, from college women – as long as the man is a fellow student and minimally artful about his approach. If he is thwarted in one overture, he may try another with a reasonable prospect of success.
No doubt lurid anecdote and popular myth cause us to exaggerate the actual frequency of campus hook-ups: Most college students do not share in these delights. But most students also believe that "everyone does it," even if the individual student, for some reason, cannot locate a partner. Thus an active minority sets the tone and makes hooking up a "culture." When there are no sexual boundaries, either official or informal, the standard becomes the extreme, and all students feel the pressure to appear more promiscuous than they are. The traditional double standard of sexual conduct – more restrictive for women than for men – has been replaced by the single standard of the predatory male.
In "Sex and the Soul," Donna Freitas, an assistant professor of religion at Boston University, acutely describes this "liberated" campus culture and wisely analyzes its effects. She is especially concerned to measure conduct and expectation against the inner life of students, including their religious feeling or "spiritual" selves. Over and over again she finds a conflict that does not resolve itself happily.
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“In case you don’t know, a hook-up is a brief sexual encounter between two partners who don’t necessarily know each other before and who don’t necessarily want to know each other after”
Isn’t that pretty much a one night stand?
The closest I’ve come is when my neighbor asked me to hook up her VCR.
Don't ask me, although the VCR I hooked up was, in a fact, on one night stand. She had the television on the other.
“Don’t ask me, although the VCR I hooked up was, in a fact, on one night stand. She had the television on the other.”
So many euphemisms, so little time. ;)
I never really got the term “one night stand” because most of the time you’re not standing at all.
“In case you don’t know, a hook-up is a brief sexual encounter between two partners who don’t necessarily know each other before and who don’t necessarily want to know each other after. And it’s free.”
Leave it to today’s inventive youngsters to come up with something completely new. /s
The term “one-night stand” is sooooooooo last generation.
“The term “one-night stand” is sooooooooo last generation.”
lol, yup. Now it’s hook-ups...or on the other side, friends with benefits.
Should make for interesting class reunions in the future.
She had you in the bedroom and you couldn’t close the deal?
A one night stand, as the name implies, is "a night".
A "hook-up" can be an encounter as little as 10 minutes and are not limited to one a day, evening, party, or even hour.
Read Tom Wolfe's I am Charlotte Simmons for a really good look at this culture. Of course, you will never want to send a child to college after reading this book.
Total myth and folk-lore.
Sure, women will tell you they'll go back to your dorm room for a quick hook up, but once they get there and see all your accouterments (restraints, costumes, race car bed) and see you in your leather mask, they pretty much never live up to their word.
Back when I was a kid (I’m only 30!) “hooking-up” was more of a “make-out session” then a “one-night stand”. I guess I’m too sheltered - I hadn’t realized that the meaning had evolved.....
I go out line-dancing with some friends every Thursday, and just last week someone asked me when I was going to “hook -up”. I said never. She looked at me like I had three heads.
In my circle, it’s called “road mung”.
"Sure, women will tell you they'll go back to your dorm room for a quick hook up, but once they get there and see all your accouterments (restraints, costumes, race car bed) and see you in your leather mask, they pretty much never live up to their word.
I think the whip and ball gag turned them off....
This liberation signals the approach of another event like the one that occurred in the early 1980's when AIDS (GRIDS) first was suspected to be a STD. The Gay Liberation of the public bath houses was the harbinger for the AIDS epidemic. University hook ups looks to be the harbinger for a more diverse STD outbreak.
“Sure, women will tell you they’ll go back to your dorm room for a quick hook up, but once they get there and see all your accouterments (restraints, costumes, race car bed) and see you in your leather mask, they pretty much never live up to their word.”
I hear ya, bro.
None of this is new, the folks on the scene who are supposed to be in charge have just abdicated their responsibility.
Financially, perhaps.
Emotionally I believe the cost is quite high.
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