I’m all for romance. But sometimes there just isn’t time. Sometimes, romance isn’t needed (most of the time it isn’t needed but could make it better, imo, as long as all the important feelings are there).
I was causing the problems back when we had babies. I looked like crap, in my mind (and any mind except my husband’s), covered in spit up or pureed carrots or whatever icky thing they ate or breastfeeding every hour. Then dealing with toddlers or pre school age kids on top of it. He’d come home from work and I just couldn’t imagine he found me attractive. It was nightime before I had a chance to shower for goodness sake, lol.
It’s hard living with anyone, imo. I’m not the easiest person to live with for sure. Humor goes a long way, imo.
I learned that it’s ok and feels just as good and means just as much regardless of all the incidentals. Romance is fine and great but can’t always have that kind of time.
There usually is not time for romance (two kids) but by romance I mean little things too. I leave little notes around the house in her purse etc. Might not sound much but IT WORKS. :>)))))