Of course, any loving father would do just that.
Frankly, a father that sees his daughter as being ugly would seem weird to me, even if she was genuinely ugly.
The loving father would not see his daughter as ugly, but the father of an ugly daughter would also be wise enough to know that is how others will see her. When the daughter says, "Am I ugly?" he will quickly say "No! I know that you are beautiful." But she will press and say, "but others make fun of me and say that I am."
That juncture of the conversation is the moment of truth. Does he just blurt out the cold hard facts or does he take exquisite care to build her up and teach her and do everything in his power to help her learn how to be beautiful as she can be both on the inside and the outside. Any loving person knows the answer to that one.
The truth is the cold hard facts have to be given in a loving way to have better success in being accepted IMO.
The accuracy (Truth) is just that, and delivery of truth with compassion is important as well. But there are those occasions when one needs to have their attention captured in a sobering way also!
The smart father would do well to prepare his daughter for the harsh realities of the world WHILE ensuring that the unending blessing’s of Christ will overshadow any earthly experience, good or bad. Not that Christians have it easy, we just realize things tend to come out in the wash, and in that final cycle, the white linens are as fresh and white as is imagineable!
I’d also prefer the truth be told, even if it’s not delivered properly as opposed to not mentioning the truth because it’s too harsh, or poor delivery, or poor timing, etc.
Neither being ideal but with souls at stake, Truth (about Redemption and salvation anyway) trumps delivery!
The truth is more important than the tact in delivering it IMO.