You just keep talking in circles. I’m not claiming and I don’t think anyone is claiming that there is no such beast or never has been. But statistically, they’ve always been a small minority. You leave me wondering why it’s so pressing for you to keep on it - while most others have a different perspective.
It seems it is more pressing for you. My husband and I raised 3 kids and they are grown now, so it isn’t a personal issue for my life at all. As for “most others having a different perspective”, what would that perspective be that is different from mine?