[Antoninus]

30 years ago, when I was a teenager, there was an old adage, that if you want to find a traditional gal to marry, go the Midwest.

Well, it doesn't have to be that way in this day and age. I found myself a nice traditional Catholic girl right here in New Jersey. Granted, it wasn't easy. I had to use an internet Catholic matchmaker site to do it.

She's a nurse so she's got an education. We both wondered what kind of parents we would be considering we both found other people's kids to be mostly annoying. After we had our first, however, everything changed. Now we have five of our own and she's now a retired nurse and full-time Mommy. And strangely, other people's kids aren't nearly as annoying as they used to be.

For those people who don't think their hearts are big enough to love a child of their own, I advise them not to use that as an excuse. The only reason to not have children if you are married and physically capable is selfishness. If you are too self-centered and self-focused to love a child more than yourself then please, don't have one.

[rosenfan]

The only reason to not have children if you are married and physically capable is selfishness

My sister has chosen not to have children because she has no desire to be a mother...and you're telling me that's selfish?

How absurd.

[tom h]

"Now we have five of our own and she's now a retired nurse and full-time Mommy. And strangely, other people's kids aren't nearly as annoying as they used to be."

Great story! And I'm envious. Mrs. Tom-H and I have only three and had to stop because we were getting a little old -- married at 30, first one at 36, last one at 42. If we'd started 5 years earlier I think I could've convinced her to have a least one more child.