I think you are right, MrB.
The ones to try to justify it are far more tormented than the ones who realize how wrong they were, and grieve.
I feel for the former, and always just listen when they go into the justification/self-defense talk. I know that they are trying so hard to keep the “what-if” demons at bay.
They know I didn’t make that “justifiable convenient choice”. So, I just don’t say anything, and by not saying anything, I say everything, if you understand the complex intricacies of “woman-talk”.
The ones who truly regret usually just sob over their loss, and wish they could go back and have a do-over. They tell me about their dreams, which do not end. Again, I just listen.
God will forgive those who repent, even if they don’t forgive themselves.
Yes, even by not saying anything, the righteous condemn the guilty by example. This is why we’re seeing so much hate for Palin.
The “justifiers” are in so much more torment than others because they are multiplying their sin by encouraging others to do the same, just so they won’t have to admit that it was the wrong “choice”. I even know someone who went so far as to become an abortion dr in order to justify her decision.
Post-abortive women fall in two camps: those who repent and work for the cause of life and those who try to justify not repenting. The first one comes to peace; the second one is mentally tortured, which is Step Two of the Devil's abortion delusion.