You can start with a Browning designed, FN High Power chambered in 9MM. It has an interesting hammer which goes back up after you chamber and then flips down when the safety is let off. It’s perfect for small hands. The problem with it? It has what is called a magazine disconnect which effects the trigger. It’s simple to remove and you get a much better trigger.
Check the photo of my Daughter in Law on my profile page. She has small hands and that Kimber is a tad too large. She loved the FN and she was getting hits that she didn’t get with the .45. I’m using the FN during an IDPA match. It’s what I’m using now.
The next is a CZ75 which should fit your hands but I have never shot one. I try to stick with Browning designs.
Thanks Shooter2.5
Sorry I didn’t see your post sooner, it got lost in all my other pings. I will check out your profile page to see it. I was looking at the KAHR PMG it’s only 5.3 inches long. Have you heard of it? I have only shot a 22 rifle in my life and that was many many years ago. I think now’s the time to get trained to use a gun for my own protection.