Skip to comments.Neb. parents rush to leave kids before law changes
Posted on 11/13/2008 6:12:32 PM PST by Gordon Greene
LINCOLN, Neb. The mother was running out of more than patience when she abandoned her 18-year-old daughter at a hospital over the weekend under Nebraska's safe-haven law. She was also running out of time: She knew that state lawmakers would soon meet in a special session to amend the ill-fated law so that it would apply to newborns only.
"Where am I going to get help if they change the law?" said the mother...
To the state's surprise and embarrassment, more than half of the 31 children legally abandoned under the safe-haven law since it took effect in mid-July have been teenagers...
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....paved with good intentions.
In my house, if my 18 year old daughter does not live up to the standards in the house, she's out of here. I don't need to drop her off at any hospital. (Fortunately, my girls are all wonderful conservatives, albeit a bit flakey at times....)
Abandoning an 18 year old?
If the girl is 18 why is she being sent there?
I need to move to Nebraska...
(just kidding, mother of a 17-year-old daughter, just shoot me)
Some one abandoned an 18 year old daughter? I got married at 19! Was the poor girl hopelessly retarded?
I have seen many a bizarre thing in my long life but this is likely in the top 10. It’s like a bad sitcom
"The state" has obviously never raised a teenager.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAhahahahahahaha! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
The mother was running out of more than patience when she abandoned her 18-year-old daughter at a hospital over the weekend under Nebraska’s safe-haven law.————————
the kid could have driven herself to the hospital
My heart and door is always open for attractive, legal-aged women.
She's eighteen! I may be a creep, but I'm not breaking the law! =)
LOL. I wanted to do the same with my 15 year old. He has since made it to 19 successfully.
I guess these “parents” must think it works like leaving your pet at the pound. On the other hand, I suppose it makes a pretty good threat for mouthy teens: “Either you shape up, or I’ll drop you off at the hospital.”
Ah....The Law of Unintended Laws strikes again.
Soylent Green is people!
Be careful what you ask for. ;)
“I need to move to Nebraska...”
The state of Nebraska has ruined the family with my grandchildren. They have single-handedly destroyed a very faith driven household and judges who think they are god won’t even let us foster care our own grandchildren where we live in Florida. Seven months and counting of this charade.
If I want to kitty up $5000 for counsel, they may fix it in 6 months. Sounds like extortion as in the Chicom adoptions.
The mom was mad because her daughter had just voted for McCain.
Not at all, in fact, your comparison is a rude slam against the system in China. When people go to China to adopt they actually come home with a child. In your case, since you are dealing with liberal know it all socialist services professionals you may pay the money and come away with nothing but less money.
It is expensive to adopt in China, but well worth it IMO. Her brothers and sister adore her, and she is a treasure, a gift from God. I like to dress her in red and call her my little red Chinese.
I grew up in Buffalo NY, There is an orhanage that used to be called Father Bakers, after Fr. Nelson Baker. Every kid in my neighborhood (and I mean every kid) was threatened more than once with being dropped off their. I later found out that most if not all of my cousins had been given the same threat. I am pretty sure every kid that ever grew up in that area was given that threat.
I later met people that had gone through there and every one of them had good things to say about it. The staff was loving and kind and worked very hard to find foster parents and adoptive parents for as many as they could.
why don’t they dump chuck hagel while they’re at it?
Will they take a 31-year-old?
“flakey at times”?
You can’t say that, “retarded”. That is horribly insensitive and politically incorrect or some such garbage.
There are some kids I’ve seen that if were mine I’d have left em at the grand canyon too.
Why did she need to abandon an 18-year-old?
I never adopted from China, but I have adopted from Korea, Kazakhstan, and Vietnam. Most of the money I paid went to plane tickets to get the kids home, nominal court fees, fees for US VISAs, passports, and the like. In some cases, it went to my own hotel fare and meals.
It sure beat waiting years for a domestic adoption, with the legal complications, potential reversals, and birth family’s strings attached.
Russia, here. The fees were high — but still, worth it. People spend WAY more for a Suburban, and this is life we’re talking about.
LOL!!! — I know, you’ve been there and done that!
You know... I’m very proud of your adoption and I’m so happy you’ve given that child a place to grow up where she can be free, but “a rude slam against the system in China” is probably a bit of a stretch.
The lack of freedom the Chinese face is more than oppressive and atrocious. When America behaves like a communist country and children are sacrificed to the state, the comparison is not so far out of line. Whether the adoption situation worked for you is actually an aside to the rest of Chinese government and how it deals with society... they rip children out of their parents arms to have them perform service “for their country”. There’s no guarantee the adoption system doesn’t work the same way. It’s just in some cases it turns out wonderful for the child and adoptive parent. You may come home with a child, but there’s no telling what the Chi-Coms did to prepare the arrangements.
When my kids were younger, there were a lot of times I threatened to get a seller’s account on Ebay and auction them off. But I didn’t. I was afraid I’d get bad feedback from the winners after they took delivery. ;-)
“Retarded” used in a derogatory manner is absolutely rude, but the word itself refers to a lack of development in some area. In the purest sense of the word, retarded is actually the proper term.
Of course, I’m not given to being politically correct. A handicap doesn’t make you “handi-capable”. It’s just what it sounds like... that being said, handicapped people accomplish incredible things, sometimes more than perfectly able people because of their drive and determination.
Words mean things. Sometimes our associations with those words make them to be something they are not. But there is always a more correct word for a given situation than another... political correctness aside.
I would have agreed with you if I had not recently spoken to an old friend of mine whose life was entirely ruined by an adoptive child. He was a demon child...nothing they did helped. She begged the courts to take him when he was 16, but they charged her instead. This is a good woman. By the way, the adopted child was a different race. I now understand how this could happen.
Wow. How awful for her. I know all too well how some courts can make it all worse. I had a colleague or two in my time that certainly shouldn’t have been on the bench.
One of my coworkers adopted from Russia.
He said he had to hand out hundred dollar bills “like a rapper in a strip club.” (his exact words)
But in the end, he thought it was worth it.....
Me too! Glad to see a homey on.
And, I suppose, until you get ahead.
I don’t get it. An 18 year old is an adult. No one can “abandon” them. They aren’t minors any more.
Severe psychological problems, sleeping around and stealing. They didn’t take the girl, step-mom left with her.
No, what I mean is, she’s eighteen...they don’t need a special law to be rid of her, and the state won’t take her.
She’s an adult.
The oddest thing to me was the "gift" box - coffee, socks, liquor (we objected to that and took extra coffee) scarves.
But your friend was right - it was worth it.
The stuff I've heard about the prospects for those orphanage children not adopted is heartbreaking.
Why is this a bad law? I think it is a great idea and should be done all over the country.
To start with, it is done to protect children. These parents were wise enough to realize that they could not protect or support their children anymore. Typically, they would have to go to court to get the State to take care of their children in those circumstances. And invariably, States will do this, for the simple reason that if the parent thinks they can’t support their kids, they probably can’t support their kids.
Otherwise, what would you have these parents do? Oftentimes, people say that there is *somebody* to help that family stay together, but in truth, those *somebodies* are hard to find. Likely, the parent has been agonizing over this decision for a long time, and even unsuccessfully sought out help and didn’t find it.
By the State taking care of these children, they are immediately going to have shelter, food, clothing, schooling, and health care. The parent will still succeed or fail on their own, but they won’t drag down the child at the same time.
The biggest objection seems to be with parents dropping off older children. But State laws are very clear about minors.
I’ve talked a lot with young runaways, and while the majority are “voluntary” runaways, their life on the street is both unhealthy and a rotten way to spend their childhood, when they could be afforded at least a minimum of support by the State. Generally, they weren’t mad at their parent or parents, and just realized that raising them was just too much for their parents to do.
So again, I hope they keep this law, and other States adopt it as well, because, honestly, these kids need it more than their parents do.
Thanks - there are a few of us. The state message board here is not as busy as some.
state won’t take her...she’s an adult
Yes she is and no they did not. Most of those “chldren” were brought in from out of state actually. One 14 year old girl was left by her mother, she promptly ran away.
Lots of comments here by posters that do not know what they are talking about. Course it is easy to sit any where but here and know exactly what is happening, what should happen. And their own states have no problems. Must be wunnerful!
What was the ‘rush’? All she had to do was deposit her ‘adult’ daughter onto the sidewalk with a suitcase.
An 18 YO is a legal adult, is it not?
Teenagers are easy.
"When they hit puberty, stuff them into a barrel, and feed them through the bung hole. When they hit 18, flip a coin to decide whether to let them out, or to drive in the bung."
(From "The Rolling Stones" by Robert Heinlein)