Thing is: it takes two. You can do your part, but you can’t make the other do theirs.
Nearly all my friends are married. Some with good marriages, some not.
I've noticed one consistent thing, those with good marriages have TWO people working hard at a good marriage, those with not so good, have at least one not working hard at it.
I get fed up hearing, primarily divorced, women say how they won't "settle" for someone who doesn't make or have good money.
I understand some guys are slugs. But money isn't an entitlement. I work very hard working in construction. Sometimes strenuous work, sometimes looong hours, sometimes brutally hot temperatures, sometimes bitingly cold temperatures. But I love what I do. I love the challenges. I love the sense of satisfaction. I make what most consider good money. I resent that some women feel they should be entitled to that simply because they exist.
I'm tired of women who constantly complain about their jobs. Or complain about this person. Or complain about that thing. They EXPECT life to be W-ONE-DER-FUL, and that a man is there to make THEM happy.
When I hear women like this I steer clear. I don't see someone who views life and happiness as something that must be worked at. I don't see someone who will stick things out when things are tough. I don't see a person who is content with who they are or what they have. (See my tagline) I see a cronic complainer as self absorbed.
I do know some decent women, its just that they're already married.
I guess thats why the other ones aren't.