You guys have never quite grasped that all of this is a two way street. After reading the comments here and at the PJM site it is no wonder that I have absolutely no desire in seeking a relationship again. Listen to yourselves, you are just as childish, selfish and self centered as the women you are berating-it truly is "all about you".
Oh, BTW...
Why do men love remote controls and computers? 1) They do exactly what you tell them. 2) If they don't you can fix them or replace them. 3) They don't spend all their time trying to change you. 4) You can turn them off and enjoy the quiet.
I have heard much the same thing out of many women I know, too.
It can still be done. My wife and I have been married for thirty one years. My children are all hitched to excellent people. My grandson is one year old, has a good mom and dad (a policeman) and will be worthy of any woman.
Marriage isn’t an ideological practice. It is both traditional and religious. People have to be free of hangups, selfishness, and bitterness to enact a deep and beautiful acquaintance with an individual of the opposite sex. It isn’t like romance novels. It’s a lifelong friendship and partnership.
The three keys to picking a mate in my opinion, are niceness, unselfishness, and compatibility. Too often people don’t look at genuine niceness and goodness in a mate, but all of us in our family selected genuinely nice, happy, well adjusted people after a period of courtship and experimentation. I’m still astonished in my taste in women at age eighteen. I won the prize.
The constant trashing of one another according to ideology is the result of societal decay. We all know that. And we also know what the poorer, nastier, selfish, hypercritical, and difficult to please members of the other sex are like. What surprises me is that given that knowledge, people can’t tell what a wonderful mate looks like and choose poorly so often.
Men and women can be heroic. My wife certainly is. I’m an alcoholic, and the first twelve years of our marriage were no great shakes, followed by three more years of turmoil when I entered recovery. But my wife is of strong faith and character and she waited for me, believing that under all the trouble was the young man she thought she had married.
I’m not suggesting that anyone stay in such a relationship. I just know that because she did, I’m alive today. She saved my life with her goodness, and I’m working on my twentieth year of sobriety.
We can trash each other or we can love each other. Society has made clear what its preference is, with man hating feminism, easy access to free porn, and constant articles and shows that are like nails on chalkboards. It’s up to us to see beyond that.
A planet without women would be no place to live, but I sure hate those seamless black pants that disguise female attributes. The New Orleans Saints and Jacksonville Jaguars wear those things for crying out loud.
A lot of bitter guys here, but of course their dating problems are not their faults. *Shrugs* A lot of people have issues with self-awareness.
Most of my friends in my age group are married (I'm 32) and in the process of having kids. And this is in DC, with a politically mixed group of young professionals. The only people who aren't married, whether male or female, are the ones who have either decided to stay single, or who have serious personality flaws.