LOL! Thankfully my wife doesn't mindlessly spout emotionally-based BS.
But if she did, she would not be my wife (we never would have made it that far).
I think the ability to decide there are certain things which are insufferable and either avoid situations where they become troublesome, or confront them when they do is essential.
There are plenty of other miserable buffoons who opted for style over substance, who are nagged to misery by their 'trophy' brides.
True story, Smokin’ Joe. Congratulations on finding a super wife. Fortunately, I was able to do the same. Makes for a nicer everyday life, doesn’t it?!!
That is the crux of the biscuit isn't it? If your spouse is so irrational that "shut up" is the only way to deal with them then you abandoned reason in the first place when you chose to marry them. "Shut up" isn't going to solve anything. It isn't going to take you back and fix the mistake you made when you accepted their neurotic behavior in the first place. It sure as heck won't change your spouse.
An argument that is only emotion based is an attempt to control by bypassing reason. Confronting that with "shut up" is playing the same game. It is just another emotion based control technique that skips reason. It is an attempt to overwhelm their neurosis with a stronger (or more obnoxious) one of your own.
The man who uses "shut up" to get his way is no different than the woman who uses tears or sex to get her way. Except that he is probably less effective. In either case the change, if any, is brought about by coercion not through achieving a reasoned understanding. If all you want is to win an argument or have silence in your home that might work but it can't be held up as reasoned principle or a solution to anything.