“In other words.... a sexually satisfied man will put up with a lot (and vice versa).”
That is the key. Women being the emotional roller-coaster ride that they are, can compensate for their mean and turbulent ways by just giving it up on demand. It’s easy for a man to be dumped on if he is satisfied in bed.
The problem I see is that women these days tend to use sex as a “reward” and the witholding of it as a “punishment”.
I have heard young women say about condom use “What if he doesn't want to use one?” to which I tell them “You could ask him to stand on his head naked and sing the Star Spangled Banner if you wanted and he would do it if he thought he was going to have sex when he was finished”.
In other words, if there is something ANYTHING that a man can do to get his gal in the mood, to make it a better experience for her, gal should SPEAK UP.
“The problem I see is that women these days tend to use sex as a “reward” and the witholding of it as a “punishment”.”
You mean the punishment is unfair. One poor buddy of mine has to follow instructions to the letter or his “punishment” is doled out. That means he can’t even have a beer on a Wednesday with me or leave the house after work.
After extensive counseling his therapist said she’s crazy and he should proceed with moving on sooner rather than later. But having run into her unplanned once, I saw she’s crazy like a fox.
The treachery. Wish I did not know and later she pulled me aside from him to “apologize” about something. She wanted to make me aware that “he didn’t know.”
He told me another time later how some people think she’s the good wife and how she plays it up but that it’s not true. Wish I could tell him how right he is about that.
The “punishment” has apparently come full circle.
A management tool?