He needs to be aware of her 'distractions'as well... but the fact that when she sees the advance coming, she has a bit of responsibility in allowing herself to be put in the mood,or gettin herself in the mood before the advance [since we all know its comin] and can do much to 'help' him get her motor started [tactfully, of course] unless she simply doesnt care...
probably sounds rambling...communication breakdown...lolol...
I look at sex, very often as I look at running. ( I have ran 5 miles, three to four times a week for nearly twenty five years now)...I rarely feel like doing it, I always feel good having had done it...and it's a great morning when I've done both before breakfast and I know the rest of the day belongs to me! (:
I get your drift - sounds like we agree :)