One point I wanted to make is that in the WorldNutDaily(^) article, the father is referred to more than once as the defendant, just as the mother is listed as the plaintiff. Doesn't that mean that the mother sued the father in this action?
If she sued the father to get a judge to decide all of this, why is she complaining? She had to have known that things could have easily gone against her.
She probably sued for divorce because he went to shack up with the other woman, who quite obviously didn't care how this looked to the children. Then he retaliated with the suit regarding the education, as a tactic of intimidation or punishment.
Adulterous men may often be ambivalent about initiating a divorce and will try to keep both women on the string for as long as possible, until one or the other of the women forces the issue. Statistically, more men than women are adulterous; more women than men file for divorce.
Sometimes, initiating the suit is the only way the abandoned spouse (of either gender) who is taking care of the children can get legal clarification of how much support money the abandoning spouse will give and whether the unfaithful partner is allowed to do such things as sleep over with the paramour when the children are in the house, etc. The cuckolded spouse needs to salvage some moral boundaries and also, if she/he has been the stay-at-home and the cheater has left the house, the custodial parent needs to sue for support. This opens the door for all the rest of the issues, no matter how cynically they are brought forward by opposing counsel just to weaken the opponent and make them desperate to accept a low-ball settlement offer, because their bills are mounting and the pressure is soul-searing.
Most people, men and women, get the shock of their lives when they enter the divorce arena and encounter the political correctness and moral suppression that goes along with "no-fault." In most cases, there has been an injured party, and most reasonable people believe this injury will be heard, understood and incorporated into the process; however, the more liberal judges either remove moral considerations from the table or rule against the religious believer. And parties to the divorce action can't choose their judge.
Contested divorce with custody issues is a nightmare for a host of imaginable reasons and many unimaginable ones as well. In Post#82 (above), I put a link to Judith Wallerstein's 25-year follow-up study of children of divorce. Contrary to popular slogans, children don't just adapt and get over it; the damage of divorce lasts for decades.