At this point, the big issue is not marriage here. The big issue is states rights, and the worst president's ever on going attempt to expand the grip of the federal government in general; and the executive branch specifically, beyond the bounds of the Constitution.
If this is allowed to continue unchecked, things do not bode well for the future of the country.
I’m all for maintaining (and gaining back) states rights issues [except for the right of secession from the union... :-) ... ].