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Well, studies say the opposite—net net—that married men are more content.

This is a huge conversation and I am sure I have as many ‘women burned by men’ stories ( ie, he left her and the kids for her best friend, younger arm candy etc) as you do on the other side.

Bottom line is we’re screwed up as a culture and being played like violins by voracious power brokers in politics and media. Just read HG Wells. We are fast becoming the mind-numbed, sensation-driven Eloi.

I do take exception to your proposition that men are socially ‘programmed’ to seek the company of a special woman in their lives, unless you want to say programmed at the subatomic level—I’ll buy that of course, all about propagation of the species and ensuring the well being of healthy offspring to perpetuate the genepool.

In the process however, the sweet miracle is that lots of lucky men and women transcend the cheap stuff—deepen the connex and learn/accept that they are two complementary halves of a sustainable system—not identical—complementary is the operative word.

Equal in ‘value’ not in ‘attribute’. Each other’s best friend in the hard fought battle of bringing up a family, building the fabric of society. They learn to stop competing, start complementing...it’s not easy but when traditional constructs ‘hold’, people are a lot less likely to just ‘bag it’ when things get difficult.

Traditional constructs are all under attack now in the illusion of ‘tolerance’.

And as traditional values unravel and the genders get more vicious toward one another, we become putty in the hands of those who wish to manipulate us. Of course culture influencer Oprah’s twisted words inform us: Women leaving men for women, she says. I think it’s BS but do know the power her ‘opinion ordinance’ carries for the female sheeple...and many will ‘do it’ as she ‘envisions it’, even if they never ‘felt it’. Good God.

However it must be said that some hedonistic males have had a hand in promoting and consuming ‘girl on girl’ action to the point of mainstreaming it, with confused teenage girls acting against their sexual encoding to please voyueristic boyfriends. It is incredibly wrong and sad all around.

Aristotle, though brilliant, is one of history’s great misogynists of course and Paul is also a creature of his time and was harsh in his opinion of what were actually pitifully non-empowered females of his day. Their one trump card, their beauty/sexual desirability—what else did they have to play? It faded soon enough as they aged. Females passing beyond childbearing years were not much use to anyone, their collected wisdom not revered as with males—except for a few famous examples.

You see there’s a tough rap on both sides. It’s hellaciously hard being a human. That’s why we are part of a complementary system and why we need God. You cannot deny you are intrinsic to the stream.

Lastly I’m the mother of two teenage sons—no daughters— that i adore more than life itself.

I’m keenly aware of the strange conflict and vagaries that rain down on them. I’m so sad they can’t live in a more values defined world, we talk about everything. I know they experience the ‘mean girls’. Their hearts have been broken. I’ve been outraged when I’ve seen their sweet sentiments crushed and ridiculed. But those girls have been programmed too. I try and advise my boys to recognize the type and not give them the time of day.

It’s no one-way street though.

A friend’s 17 year old daughter just committed suicide after several boys had sex with her and merchandized it —in pictures and words—all over her high school. ( But didn’t the movies tell her this is way cool?....isn’t hateful online porn the du jour guidebook for today’s teens?)

But look-—we can trade shots back and forth ad nauseum. There ARE good women AND good men out here. Our best shot is to work together, I’m a lover of good men, but no fool when it comes to bad men..i just don’t throw them all in the same barrel.

Please don’t be drawn into the sex wars....it is a loser, you can end up on a desolate plateau, forever lost.

Don’t give up on the “system” God designed.