Posted on 05/14/2009 9:48:05 AM PDT by nickcarraway
Thanks for sharing all that.
So the blue-haired little old lady kept on going? Did she ever know she’d hit someone?
Thanks again.
I was at the grocery one day when one lady questioned me about the marks on my boys’ faces. I had no idea what she was talking about. Turns out they had lipstick marks from me kissing their faces (they still ask me to kiss their faces when I put on lipstick) and she thought they were bruises of some sort.
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Heh. :)
WHen socialization comes up remember my daddy always said, “I didn’t send you to school to socialize.”
I had a similar question asked at my last checkup.
“Are you secure in your home relationships?”
I said “My cat is trying to kill me.”
LOL. Perfect answer.
>>Oooooh, don’t even get me started on their ridiculous obsession with weight.
They hospitalized my six month old daughter because she was ‘undersized’ according to their charts. They fed her gravy and white bread for a week, realized that she was just a small kid, and discharged her...But not before instructing me to stuff her full of peanut butter which they should have known is a huge allergen. <<
Yikes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh that is too cute!
Thanks much but the stories on this thread...I cried, laughed and cried again. And that’s not cliche’.
For a long time I bought into the idea that “real men” never cry. I’ve traveled a very long path from a very macho persona that was a necessary shield to now. My journey regaining humanity should never have happened when I think of the (very few) opportunities.
Child abuse is a unique torture that can shape a forming human being into a tool, an automaton or a monster fueled by hatred to wreak Hell on his tormentors...nothing good comes from it.
I’ve finally forgiven mine. Mostly. I wonder if I’m shouldering the karma of bad people or just unlucky. But hey, I’ve gotten to where I cry over an actor’s cue. I’m finally regaining humanity.
BTW: Thanks for the encouragement to write but what I have in the drawer has all been done to death by other writers. The only original story I have (my personal life) is far too depressing to sell no matter how I tell it. I’m striving to make it a success story. The light of hope remains as a beacon.
vaudine
Thanks for sharing your story. I’d read your book, too, if you ever decide to write one.
My guess is every parent has, at some point, to a certain degree. All the stories on this thread sound so familiar because either I've heard another parent tell a version of it, or I have my own version.
For example, years ago, I knew someone who was tossing his toddler up in the air and catching him, and suddenly the child started crying in pain. It turns out, the child's shoulder was dislocated. The child told the doctor: "Daddy threw me up in the air and hurt my arm." The doctor gave the father a suspicious look.
One of my sons was injured tripping backward off a swing, but my husband didn't think the injury was serious, and we let him play a whole baseball game. The next day, he was in serious pain; it turned out his collarbone was broken. :-0 I know so many parents with a similar story. There are so many more stories I'm sure we all could tell.
When my one son's arm was in a sling, another got a black eye when he was hit by a swing. At that time, there was a huge protest for homeschoolers against a bill that would've brought us all under suspicion of child abuse. Two thousand people attended the protest with their families, but I couldn't go. To explain why to the other moms, I pointed to my children, one of whom had his arm in a sling and the other with a black eye. They agreed my children would've been the front page photo for the news story. ;-)
I was 8 months pregnant with my first, and driving down a suburban neighborhood street at a low speed. A kid on a bike darted out from a side street, I jammed on the brakes, and he ran into the side of my car.
I didn’t see him hit me, and thought I had run over him (bump in the pavement), I tore out of the car, saw him picking up his bike, laughing, and then I fainted in the street.
His dad came tearing out of the house on that corner, helped me sit up, assured me his kid was fine, that the bike was history for a month, and that the kid was grounded, was worried about the little scratch on the rear door, etc.
I just can’t tell you the feeling I had—when I thought I had hit the child.
On the other hand, the son I was carrying at the time was quite a daredevil. During a routine checkup, the doctor was chatting with him, and asked him if he had any hobbies, or collected anything. “Bumps and bruises” was his answer. Another time, the doctor asked him if he had any concerns, and he said, in a serious voice, “I haven’t slept in days.” The doctor said, “You haven’t? What’s the matter?” My son replied, “I sleep nights,” and laughed himself silly.
We did have to put a lid on his crib, because at age 9 months he climbed out and fell on the floor. I told the doctor, feeling terribly guilty, and the doctor just said, “Well, it’s better than a broken neck.” Our pediatrician had 4 children, and he was just a terrific guy. Normal, you know.
I had the kind of kids that always break a tooth or get a black eye, stitches, or a broken arm right before school picture time. *sigh*
LOL! Was it a Siamese? My mom had one that would lurk on the highest places it could (even on top of open doors) awaiting unfortunate humans. I had a ferocious woodchuck in my back yard far more charming (kicked cat butt). We got to an understanding - and it wasn't wired to kill everything that moves.
Nope, just a big grey cat. It does love plastic, and pulled a sheet of bubble wrap on to the stairs. That was exciting when I stepped on it in the dark.
I had the same thing happen to me when I went to the emergency room in January after hurting my ankle playing basketball. I’m sitting there drenched in sweat in athletic clothes with a swollen ankle, wife by my side, when the attending nurse asked out of the blue if there was any abuse involved. I actually thought she was joking, so I said said I couldn’t talk about it in front of my wife cause she might hit me again.
My heartfelt sympathies. It got to where I became numb cutting them knowing that it wasn’t about punishment. It was about sadism and the person you were under was the one needing attention.
I hope you’ve arrived at or are coming to terms with it as I am doing. So much crap is written about how the abused become abusers themselves. Like we have no hearts or free will.
LOL!
A cat who’s so intelligent as to lay a warning system...WAY disturbing. It’s not going to be the Planet Of The Apes. It’s going to the dogs and cats. There will be war between them and those of us who remain will serve as kibbles and Friskies providers to our masters.
Oh...we’re doing that already.
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