I was thinking that it is quite common to either be attracted to or repelled by your parents.
A real girly-girl mom could have had quite a repelling influence on her daughter, who felt she was being dressed up like a little dolly. I’ve seen it happen.
Well, I think what’s going on is that children inherently know when they are being treated poorly. Thus Jesus taught that like them we enter His kingdom. But we seldom teach children to complain when the shabby conduct is by an adult, particularly a parent. A child knows when he is being treated as an object through which an unfulfilled parent is trying to realize their own desire to be seen as beautiful (or athletic or successful or a million other curses we visit on them). Teach your children well. Do not hinder them.