I did read the article. Do you not understand my post????? Stay married! You folks have ruined marriage.
Honestly, I don't know how you can say you read the article and disagree with it, when she says EXACTLY the same thing you are saying! And she says it well:
Staying together is not enough, but it is the blessed opportunity to bring more joy and peace to your own life, your spouse, the children, and your family as a whole. Your extended family’s support is always a blessing, so saying nice things about your spouse to both sides of the family generates even more positive feelings all around.
While you are “staying together,” your children benefit from both mom and dad; don’t have to compete with your new “love interests” and other children you inherit or create; don’t have to live two lives; don’t have to exist in the middle of perpetual rancor; and don’t have to resort to drugs, alcohol, sex, and other misbehaviors to get attention or get back at you.
All of the preceding won’t make your divorced life much of a pleasure, if you think about it.
Yes, short of dangerous or destructive, I vote for staying together for the sake of the children, because everybody wins if you do it right.
What is it that you disagree with?
I don’t think that people should be married just to be married. In some cases divorces are good.. If the parents keep on bickering and stay married, if there some emotional abuse, or realize there is a mistake and can’t work things out and don’t love each other anymore, well I guess a divorce is warranted..