Could you not have told the respiratory specialist ‘No’?
Could you not have refused any of these treatments if you did not want them? I mean you and your late wife.
And, my deepest sympathies. I have lost many family members to that horrible disease. May she rest in eternal peace.
As to the respiratory guy, I was finally able to lay hands on our “living wills” and bring them in,so we could get sedation.
As to refusal of treatment,how do you tell a loved one she “can’t” have something she believes might help her - even when you know otherwise going in ?