Skip to comments.BLACK IN AMERICA: Single black women choosing to adopt
Posted on 07/01/2009 11:16:57 AM PDT by freed0misntfree
(CNN) -- Wendy Duren thought she did everything right. Wendy Duren says she doesn't get as much sleep but loves her adopted daughter, Madison.
Wendy Duren says she doesn't get as much sleep but loves her adopted daughter, Madison.
She broke off relationships with men who didn't want to settle down. She refused to get pregnant out of wedlock. She prayed for a child.
Duren's yearning for motherhood was so palpable that her former fiancé once offered to father a child with her. But he warned her that he wasn't ready for marriage.
"I get bored in relationships after a couple of years," he told her, she recalls.
Those events could have caused some women to give up their dreams of motherhood. But Duren, a pharmaceutical saleswoman, didn't need a man to be a mom. At 37 years old, she decided to adopt.
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What a guy!
"I had a family who turned a baby down because it was too dark," she says. "They said the baby wouldn't look good in family photographs."
Sounds like racism to me.
You stole my thunder. I hope more women like this woman choose to adopt.
I think she’s been dating the wrong kind of man, though. There are available men, but they’re nice guys.
One trend the article ignored is that, for years now, many European and Canadian couples have been coming to the U.S. to adopt black babies, too (according to what I’ve read). I also once knew one such couple. Just like American couples have been traveling to Asian countries to adopt baby girls because of the stories about abandoned baby girls there. Couples from Europe and Canada have been hearing stories about black children in the U.S. who need families.
Colorism. Black people’s secret bigotry.
“They’ll say, ‘I want a baby to look like a Snickers bar, not dark chocolate,’ “
We don’t have Snickers, will you settle for a Milky Way?
“I had a family who turned a baby down because it was too dark,” she says. “They said the baby wouldn’t look good in family photographs.”
Haven’t they heard of Photoshop?
So let me get this straight. When the black woman being interviewed said “I haven’t found the right man” what she really means is “I haven’t found a man with the exact shade of brown that is attractive to me”.
My new nephew (in law?) is mixed race, and yes - he is the talk of the town. Women SWOON over him, not because he is well behaved and proper - but because he exhibits a desirable shade of brown. Half white, half black - i have heard more than a handful of people state how much he looks like B Hussein Obama. Enough to really make me upset.
It appears Racism is alive and well, harbored deepest and most fearfully in those who both claim to be non-racist, and who honestly view themselves as non-racist.
“When the black woman being interviewed said I havent found the right man what she really means is I havent found a man with the exact shade of brown that is attractive to me.
I dont think that was the issue with the woman featured in the story. Her problem was finding a man willing to commit to marriage. From what I’ve heard its fairly common for professional black women to have trouble finding suitable mates.
I didn't see that in the article.
There was a comment in the article about difficulty in finding homes for babies who have darker skin. But, I have a suspicion everyone is reading far too much into that one line.
Just as a white couple might want to adopt a baby who resembles them in haircolor and eye color, for example, a black couple might want a baby who resembles them, too. Am I the only person who sees nothing wrong with that?
It's not like this was a scientific study measuring the number of babies adopted according to shade of brown compared with the shade of the adoptive parents. It all seems to be hearsay. JMHO.
Thank you, both, for the clarification. You’re absolutely correct - The foam in my mouth can sometimes make everything taste bad.