Ive met quite a few self sufficient women over the years...many whose character and fortitude put many men to shame.
My grandmother raised 9 children during the depression years...by her self. She kept the family together and "physically" threw out two social workers who came to her house, trying to take some of her kids away. That was one tough lady. Im a guy who appreciates the strength of a true woman.
That being said I think the woman's lib movement screwed up a whole generation of women.
There is no need to put down men just to describe a good woman.