Shame is an emotion of the past (well, OK, these people probably NEVER had any).
They think us fools for supporting them and will take everything we are stupid enough to give them. And no doubt call us racists if we don’t, in some cases.
nail on head
If I say no to a black family or hispanic then I am a racist
if I say no to a white family then I am insensitive
well I am now past the point of being called a name by a stranger.
I care what my wife and kids think of me and that is it.