In which case, they live their lives unobtrusively.
Participating in "Gay Days" at Disneyworld or going on "Gay Cruises" is not the way one does that.
You have this in common with lots of people, ironically, say, with John Kerry, who during the campaign couldnt resist outing the Cheney daughter who was gay, strictly for the dubious political purpose of stoking the gay issue, insisting she was fair game. Nice company you keep.
Heck with gay days and gay cruises - you should get a load of the Gay Parade and the Folsom Street Fair in our area. It is like hell on earth. You have never seen such a thing.