The last article that I read stated the birth Mom did abide by the ordered visitation and that the child started having problems so Mom stopped the visitation. The lesbian filed for custody on the advice of a gay group. She’d not maintained any contact previous to that, no cards, no visits, no phone calls. The last I heard, it was being explored as to whether Virginia had to abide by a Vermonts court order.
I’m only referencing what was presented here. If there are other facts I’m not aware of, my perception could change.
What I tried to do is explain why the court ruled as it did.
Look, even if the non-custodial parent does something wrong, it’s the court that has to make the determination considering future visitation. You can’t just run off, even if you have good reason.
If you do, you’ll be putting the child at risk by validating a decision to give full custody to the parent you think is doing them wrong... not a good idea at all.