>>>men think with their gonads and not with their minds and hearts, and too many women knock themselves out trying to please these guys.<<<
While the first part of your assessment may have truth in it, I think it is women themselves who are most brutal to each other about their looks. Thus, many women aren’t trying to please the guys, but rather please their hypercritical female friends. I can’t tell you how many husbands I know who are perfectly happy with their aging wives, while the women themselves show great insecurity about the aging process.
Although I'm well into my senior years, I'll never play that game. I am what I am--my husband has hung in there for 48 years, so guess he's not bothered. That's all that matters to me.