even after having my sister die when she was 8 and I was 10, and seeing the grief my parents went through (not to mention my own). I still cant imagine the pain you must be going through....My heartfelt sympathies.
God Bless you. We have another son. He is 17 and is very different from James. He makes friends easily. But, he is no good time Charlie. I've been telling him there's a little Monk in him. Having our other son is a great comfort. I'm sure you were to your parents as well. How that changes the course of our lives, we trust in God's guidance. God has shown Himself to us in so many compassionate people who have comforted us.
My other son will come to Compassionate Friends with us at some point. The local group we are joining is for 18 and up. Meanwhile, the school psychologist, counselors and teachers have been great to him.