Skip to comments.More Males Filing Sexual Harassment in Workplace Claims
Posted on 03/05/2010 8:39:23 PM PST by Neil E. Wright
By Sam Hananel
March 5, 2010
John Pilkington's boss wouldn't take no for an answer.
During more than two years as a food runner at an upscale steakhouse in Scottsdale, Arizona, Pilkington says his male supervisor groped, fondled and otherwise sexually harassed him more than a dozen times.
"It was very embarrassing,'' Pilkington said. "I felt like I had to do something because the situation was just so bad.''
Now Pilkington, a married father of two, is the star witness in a U.S. federal lawsuit against Fleming's Prime Steakhouse & Wine Bar and one of a growing number of American men claiming they are victims of sexual harassment in the workplace.
From 1990 to 2009, the percentage of sexual harassment claims filed by men has doubled from 8 percent to 16 percent, according to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.
Lawyers at the commission say they've noticed the increase in complaints by men -- more than 2,000 were filed in 2009 out of about 12,700 cases.
"It's certainly possible that there's more sexual harassment of men going on, but it could just be that more men are coming forward and complaining about it,'' said Ernest Haffner, an attorney in the commission's Office of Legal Counsel.
While some cases allege harassment by female supervisors or co-workers, most charges involve men harassing other men. Sometimes it's unwelcome romantic advances. Other times, men are picked on because they are gay, perceived as being gay or not considered masculine enough for the work setting.
In the past, some employers might have shrugged off such antics as "boys will be boys'' horseplay or fraternity-type behavior. But the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission has been filing more lawsuits involving male victims, saying it wants to send a message that such behavior is unacceptable and unlawful.
In November, for example, the Cheesecake Factory restaurant chain agreed to pay $345,000 to six male employees who claimed they were repeatedly sexually assaulted by a group of male kitchen staffers at a Phoenix-area restaurant.
The commission said the abusers would drag some victims kicking and screaming into a walk-in refrigerator, touching and grinding against the victims' genitals and take turns simulating rape. The company denied the allegations but agreed to make a financial settlement and educate its employees and managers about sexual harassment.
Susan Strauss, a consultant who advises companies about how to avoid sexual harassment in the workplace, said she's seeing more cases in which men are subject to a sexualized form of hazing.
"If you don't fit the masculine stereotype or are viewed as effeminate, you get picked on in a sexual way to demean you,'' Strauss said.
Cases involving women making unwanted advances toward men may also be rising as women make up a growing part of the work force. Last year, the Regal Entertainment Group, which operates a national chain of movie theaters, agreed to pay $175,000 to settle a lawsuit by a male employee who claimed a female co-worker repeatedly grabbed his crotch at work.
When the employee complained to his supervisor and the theater's then-general manager, he claims, she failed to stop the harassment and instead retaliated with unfair discipline and lower performance evaluations.
The number of cases filed by men has grown steadily since a landmark Supreme Court ruling in 1998 held that same-sex harassment is a valid claim under federal anti-discrimination laws. That ruling involved an offshore oil rig worker who said he was subject to humiliating sex-related treatment by other workers, including being sodomized in the shower with a bar of soap.
In Pilkington's case, he claims the restaurant's chef would grope and pinch his genitals or grab his backside when Pilkington walked to the kitchen or stock room. Despite his complaints to the restaurant's operating partner, he says the conduct didn't stop.
After one incident, Pilkington lost his composure and yelled at the chef. Days later, he was fired -- an action he claims was retaliation for his complaints. An Equal Employment Opportunity Commission lawsuit on behalf of Pilkington and three other current and former employees is pending.
"I think maybe it's just harder for males to come out and file a complaint because of how embarrassing it is,'' Pilkington said. "When I talk about it I get this nauseous feeling in my stomach.''
The restaurant has denied the charges. In a statement, the company that owns Fleming's said the restaurant "has always been committed to providing a safe and healthy workplace free of harassment for all of its associates.''
Many victims are hesitant to come forward because they are afraid of being considered unmanly or being derided by co-workers, said Mary Jo O'Neill, a regional attorney in the EEOC's Phoenix District office.
"All sexual harassment victims feel humiliated, lacking control and power,'' O'Neill said. "This has a different twist because everyone expects that they would be able to handle it and take care of it themselves.''
Also, NO FAGS IN THE MILITARY. PERIOD!!!
This is precisely the reason NOT to repeal Don’t Ask - Don’t Tell. The minute it is repealed, the fags will have carte blanche to hit on and sexually harass their fellow troops.
Anyone with a speck of intelligence knows that any complaint or refusal by the harassee will be labeled a hate crime, and punished. And in no time flat, the military will go to hell on a bobsled track!
Imagine working for Helen Thomas...
Sadly the McCains and Cheneys are pro gay marriage, gay military and pro sodomy.
Any filed against sweet Sarah2012 yet? (((just wait)))
I was thinking that it was because of older women wanting toy boys. The fems have been in the workplace for some thirty odd years.
Isn't this every man's FANTASY?
When I was in college, an older man who worked at the same restaurant would slide up to the young guys, all of us, and play grab ass. It made me mad and I kept telling him to cut it out. One of the other older guys told me that the next time ol’ Larry started the butt massage to make a big deal about how good he did it. So when he did, I gave a performance worthy of a trophy. And that was the end of Larry touching the guys. I learned a good lesson, too.
Just like you’d expect a woman to slap a male groper across the face, wouldn’t most straight guys give a gay male groper a knuckle sandwich?
You think "fag" is a degrading word that shouldn't be used?? you think that "kicking their ass if they harass you" is "too violent"???
I have news for you, you fracking IDIOT!! Political correctness KILLS, and it is PAST TIME for a push back.
I am NOT politically correct, I'll call a fag a fag, and a spade a spade, and if you don't like it, I'll invite you to go have intercourse with yourself.
Spineless IDIOTS like you are the reason the country is in the dire straits it's in. You don't want to "offend" someone. Well, here's a fracking clue for you .... the "right" not to be offended is NOWHERE in the Constitution nor is it a part of life. If you're offended, GET THE FRACK OVER YOURSELF. I'll offend everyone sooner or later, so get used to it.
If every woman secretly wants to be raped, then yes, that’s our fantasy.
I’m gonna hit the “report abuse” button for overusing your caps and bold text.
Use this dictionary and you will be left alone. Looks like it has “gay” approval.
I thought a person used caps to indicate a loud voice. It shows emotion. Are you the emotion moderator?
Yes I am...I detect enough emotion out of you that I’m getting a whiff of “unstable”.
I didn’t see it in the ‘dickshunary’, but one of my favorites to describe them is ‘dung-punchers’...and I suppose if that is ‘all-inclusive’ it leaves need to define the ‘dung-punch-ee’ and the ‘dung-punch-or’.
I still say, eunicize...and fix ‘em so they have to pee sitting down...parking lot surgery...maybe not in Texas though - ok to shoot ‘em, not ok to maim.
That odor of unstable is getting stronger. And I deal with unstable people at work all the time.
Ask my wife, I can call crazy within 5 seconds of meeting someone and am always proven right.
Since I’ve only “met” you through the written word, I’ll withold my final judgement but my sensors are beeping.
p.s....you never really offended me. I don’t take what other’s type in the privacy of their home too serious.
Pingout tomorrow. Thanks for posting this.
What’s the problem? Your first post is still there.
They call each other “faggot”.
Apparently it was not bad enough for Jim to consider "over the top" ...... :)
Jim, if it's over the top, pull it. Some of the replies are calling for worse than a bloody nose .... :D
How do you know Helen has a labido?
Neil you are an embarrasment to my Catholic Conservative faith and anyone reading here Neil is a creep.
The use of the word Fag not in context to a nicotine stick is imflamatory and juvenile.
Now regarding the fellow being gropped he should have had bounderies and nipped that issue in the bud.
Regardless if it was a Man or a Woman doing the gropping.
Grow up Neil.
You and Niel need to clean up your language if you want anyone to listen.
Good for you.
Took the Prada bully out of his game.
U betcha deal with the sit chew way tion straight up.
What’s wrong with the word ‘fag’? Why would a fag be offended by that word? What word would you prefer fags be called?
Well now wait just one second there.
You have to be more presice.
Obese woman fantasize too.
(did I ruin your dinner dear?)
Time for you and Neil to get a room together.
Your a jerk.
For the Love of God Jim.
Queer sons of government-corporate big shots were propositioning men in shops during the late ‘70s and early ‘80s—conveyor construction, pipeline valve companies...all kinds. Men who were straight and refused to play with them were fired one after another. The boards and managers of those companies were behind queer supervisors, so to speak (their sons, nephews, all). In most cases, attempts to sue will be unsuccessful, as they’re related to the lawyers, too.
Our leadership has been degenerating for a long time. Business families are also full of socially perverted government employees. Corporate-government interests get what they want, until their game plays out. Help them to finish it. Cheer on the big government spending! Avoid unnecessary personal expenditures in order to deprive them of revenues. Become more self-sufficient. Develop a hobby at making useful things—like indexing gears, for example. Be nonpolitical. Give the special interests of the current paradigm a little nudge in the direction that they’re already going (off the edge).
Fatten the beast with its debts, then starve it. Rebuild. That’s the only way, IMO.
Makes me want a Butte Dechutes.
Your Mc Gals are pretty too.
However being a woman with a taste for Ale I will give you all yer pretty gals and take the suds for me self mate. : )
Pork Belly and Grits on the side. : )
Offensive? I thought he was ‘Catholic’.
I’ll take them grits but if left to my druthers there better be a whole lot of gravy. :^)
KV wants to know if the blonde gal is taking texts fer possible future raising jugs of Ale dates.
He has noticed she in all her shining eyes is frequenting our St. Patty March threads.
I was just giving Neil a shot of his own medicine.
And rightfully so should be deleted but so should Neil.
He seems to be confused about civility/decency and the ability to speak Freely.
Too Bad the Mods have sunk so Low to accomadate a worm such a Neil on Jim Robinsons Forum.
And if you want to try to carry out your threat in reply #40, be advised, that I'll be glad to send you directions to my place. But, if you decide to follow through on your threat, I WILL SHOOT YOU.
Have a nice weekend.