Since Neil has never, since I’ve known him (and that would be all HIS life), been a Catholic, your embarrassment would seem to be self-inflicted. Now granted, when he was a mere slip of a youth of a child, he was kinda creepy, but he grew out of it and became pretty much a likable human being.
YOU, on the other hand...
Scene A: A guy walks up to a girl in a bar and tells her what he’d like to do to her. She throws a drink in his face. The bartender has the bouncer toss him and the cop outside arrests him for Disorderly Conduct.
Scene B: A Gay guy walks up to a guy in a bar and tells him what he’d like to do to him. He throws a drink in his face. The bartender has the bouncer toss him. The cop outside arrests the bouncer, the bartender and the guy. The bar is shut down until the staff undergoes Diversity Training.