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But the locker room thing bothered me. I've been a men's locker room regular for more than half a century. I just came back from my gym. No guy I know would talk about missing curtains in the showers in his locker room. They simply do not exist; at least in any of the dozens of men's locker rooms I've been in. (Girls: I know you have them because in high school the visiting boys teams would use the girls locker room, at least when I was in high school.)

I am a woman, I've not spent any serious time in a men's locker room, but I did see the difference between the boy's and girl's version in high school, as you note, we had curtains, they didn't. I've seen college locker rooms, pro teams when the cameras go in to show us pre-game stuff, some after-game footage, I have never ever seen curtains or partitions of any kind in a men's locker room -- once upon a time I cleaned restrooms, I noted the ladies stalls had doors on them, the mens, nope, urinal right there as well.

In any kind of privacy discussion with my brothers, husband now, when I was younger I would ask them, "How can you just do that in front of other guys? Doesn't it bother you?" I have been told men/boys don't notice, don't look, there's no modesty question. Accepted -- and that is why this business of Massa and the lack of curtains in the House gym, I didn't understand the big deal he was making. Now, Rahm strolling in, literally butt nekkid, the poking a finger in the chest, to me that kind of power trip move, I wouldn't put past Rahm, but don't men walk around nekkid in locker rooms all the time? In full view of each other?? Is that really something that needs to be pointed out as so out of the ordinary??

I just asked my husband about this, the shower curtain stuff, he says it may be a Navy thing, that on board ship, they don't have the shower stalls laid out as they do in a locker room, there are very small, three-sided steel cubicles with a curtain in front. On his mine-sweeper ship, they had four. He wants to know how long Massa was in, how much time he spent on board?

My question to him, okay, I understand that, but then how many men's rooms, locker rooms, etc., has Massa been in since leaving the Navy, such that he still would expect shower curtains in the House gym?

Neither of us can answer each other -- but it would help the conversation, at any rate.